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This is absolutely beautiful work. I am especially fascinated by what you say about interweaving the individual with the collective and having a language to switch between the two.

I have come across this issue of legitimate anger especially in the context of intergenerational trauma. When adult children address childhood pain with their parents, it can be a very delicate and explosive situation. I have witnessed families break apart over such issues, because the parent was unable (too much unprocessed trauma) to respond adequately and gracefully.

As you say, it triggers trauma on both sides. If one side is able to listen to the legitimate anger of the other, without the need for defensiveness or reactive accusations, these issues can resolve beautifully, both parties involved have an opportunity to grow, and the relationship deepens.

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